Welcome to the top 10 Tips for a Successful First Date.
So, you’ve landed a first date, and now you’re feeling like it’s an episode of Survivor—except instead of outwitting, outplaying, and outlasting, it’s more like “Don’t say anything embarrassing, don’t spill your drink, and for the love of all things holy, don’t talk about your ex”.
If that sounds familiar, then congrats—you’re in the right place!
This blog post will help you navigate that first date so well that you’ll be cruising toward date number two in no time.
Whether you’re a dating newbie, someone looking to get back into the game, or just brushing up on your skills, these tips will make sure your first date is a successful first date.
1. Go to a place that you go often, given the choice
When you’re picking a spot for your first date, stick to a place you know well. Familiar settings help you relax and show confidence—kind of like having a home-field advantage!
Plus, you won’t have to deal with any unexpected surprises (like finding out your date hates sushi after you’ve already ordered). A familiar place also lets you have natural conversation topics on hand, like the best dishes on the menu or funny stories from your past visits.
However, don’t overshare every single detail, or it’ll start to feel like a guided tour. 😅
Keep things chill and let the place work its magic while you focus on your date.
2. Listen to them
This might sound like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many people get so caught up in their own stories that they forget the most crucial part of the date:
actually listening to the other person.
So, put on your best active listening ears, nod in the right places, and—here’s the kicker—show genuine interest in what they’re saying.
Ask thoughtful questions based on what they share instead of rattling off a pre-scripted list and if they mention their weird obsession with collecting antique spoons, lean into it!
You never know what quirks might turn out to be endearing.
3. Don’t brag, be a little mysterious
Okay, so you’ve got a lot going for you—that’s great! But there’s no need to unload your entire life story on the first date.
Instead, try to be a little mysterious. Tease a bit of information without giving away all the details, kind of like a movie trailer.
When you leave them wanting to know more, it’ll keep them curious and eager for a second date, trust me!
Besides, bragging can come off as insecurity wrapped in a shiny package, so stick to modesty and if you’re really tempted to show off, remember there’s a thin line between “I run marathons” and “I only date people who can keep up with me.”
4. Always have a plan B
Life is unpredictable, and dates can be too. What if the restaurant is overbooked?
Or what if your favourite café suddenly decides to play death metal? That’s why it’s always smart to have a backup plan (aka Plan B).
Find a secondary spot nearby that fits a similar vibe or keep a list of conversation starters to break awkward silences.
Being prepared will show that you’re adaptable and cool under pressure—plus, it’ll help you salvage a potentially disastrous situation. Just don’t tell your date you’ve got a backup plan—it can make them feel like they’re on a tightly scheduled itinerary.
5. Get rid of any expectations other than having a great time
Let’s get one thing straight: first dates are not auditions for marriage or exclusive long-term commitments.
The goal is simple—have a great time!
Don’t put so much pressure on yourself or your date to meet some unrealistic standard. When you’re not focused on whether you’ll end up in a rom-com style relationship, you’re free to enjoy the moment for what it is. Embrace the uncertainty and be open to wherever the evening takes you. This way, you won’t be disappointed if things don’t go perfectly according to plan. Remember, a successful first date is one where you can both leave with a smile.
6. RELAX!! The more calm you are, the better the date will go
Easier said than done, right?
But seriously, the more relaxed you are, the smoother the date will go. Take a few deep breaths, do a power pose before you leave, or give yourself a pep talk in the mirror if you have to.
Relaxation is key because it sets the tone for your entire date.
When you’re calm, you’re more likely to enjoy yourself, and your date will pick up on those vibes. If things start to feel tense, laugh it off and roll with it.
After all, nothing’s more charming than someone who can find humour in the awkwardness!
7. Don’t be late
Showing up late might be fashionable at parties, but on a date, it’s a major no-no.
Being late sends a message that you don’t value your date’s time, which can leave a sour taste before the night even starts.
Plan ahead, check the traffic, and give yourself some buffer time just in case and if something genuinely unavoidable happens, let them know as soon as possible and apologize.
No one’s perfect, but the effort you show speaks volumes. Just don’t make it a habit, or you might find yourself dating your Netflix queue more often than people.
8. Don’t scroll on your phone
You’re on a date, not a scrolling marathon.
Unless you’re showing them a picture of your adorable dog or sharing a hilarious meme, put the phone away!
Being glued to your screen is the fastest way to ruin a successful first date because it gives off the impression that you’re bored or uninterested.
Make it a goal to be fully present—keep your phone on silent and focus on what’s in front of you. And if you absolutely have to check something, do it briefly and with an explanation.
For example, “I just need to make sure my Uber driver didn’t cancel.”
9. Avoid looking overly trendy or unapproachable
Dress to impress, but don’t turn up looking like you just stepped off a fashion runway—unless your date is into avant-garde looks.
The goal is to look like the best version of yourself, not someone who’s been styled by a magazine editor.
Wear something that makes you feel comfortable and confident—bonus points if it’s also something you’d wear again for date number two.
Your outfit should complement who you are, not overshadow it. After all, you want them focusing on you, not on whether your shoes are designer or knockoffs.
10. BE YOURSELF
Cliché? Yes.
Important? Absolutely!
Pretending to be someone you not is like building a house of cards—it’ll crumble at the slightest breeze.
So, be yourself, flaws and all! If you’re a little nerdy, own it.
If you’re not sure what to say, be honest.
The right person will appreciate your authenticity and want to get to know more of the real you and isn’t that what dating is all about?
Being yourself is the best way to ensure that if you do end up on date number two, they’re interested in you and not the person you pretended to be.
FAQs
1. What are some good conversation starters for a successful first date?
Great conversation starters include asking about their favourite hobbies, movies or travel destinations. Steer clear of overly personal topics like past relationships or salary unless the conversation naturally heads that way.
2. Should I mention that I’m looking for a serious relationship on the first date?
It’s best to gauge the vibe first. If the conversation flows toward the topic, be honest but not intense. Save in-depth relationship goals for later dates unless the opportunity genuinely arises.
3. What’s the best way to end a successful first date?
End with a smile, a compliment and an honest expression of your interest (or disinterest) in seeing them again. If you want a second date, a simple “I had a great time, let’s do this again!” works wonders.
Conclusion
First dates can feel like a whirlwind, but with these ten tips, you’re well on your way to having a successful first date. The key is to be prepared, be yourself, and above all, have fun.
Remember, the only expectation you should have been to enjoy the time spent getting to know someone new.
So, relax, laugh, and maybe even surprise yourself with how enjoyable dating can actually be.
Happy dating.
Xx
