Alright, folks, let’s get one thing straight: your happiness matters and if anyone says otherwise—
F#ck ‘em!
Seriously, life is short and if you’re not putting yourself first, who will?
This post is all about shedding the guilt, embracing your quirks, and living your best, happiest life without worrying about the rest.
So, buckle up because we’re diving deep into why your happiness should be at the top of your priority list.
Get ready to laugh, learn and maybe have a few “Aha!” moments along the way!
1. Why putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s survival
Let’s kick things off with the ultimate truth bomb: putting yourself first is not selfish, it’s survival. You wouldn’t run a marathon on an empty stomach, so why do you keep trying to run life on empty?
Your happiness matters and the moment you start living for YOU, things will magically shift.
When you stop sacrificing your own joy for others, you will actually have more energy to give to the people who deserve it.
Think of it as filling up your own tank before driving others around. Don’t feel guilty for putting yourself first—it’s a matter of self-preservation!
And hey, if you need even more reasons to prioritize yourself, check out my post: “It’s Okay to Be Selfish”. Spoiler alert: it’s not just okay—it’s necessary!
2. The myth of people-pleasing: spoiler alert, it’s exhausting
Raise your hand if you have ever found yourself knee-deep in a people-pleasing spiral.
Yeah, people-pleasing is exhausting,
GUESS WHAT?
It doesn’t make you any happier.
Happiness isn’t about making others feel good at your expense—it’s about living a life that feels good to YOU.
The truth is, you can’t control what others think or how they react, so why stress about it?
When you ditch the need for everyone’s approval, you create space for genuine connections that actually fuel your joy. The moral of the story: please yourself first!
3. Cancelling plans is the ultimate power move
There’s something absolutely magical about saying,
“Nope, not today!”
when you just don’t have it in you.
Cancelling plans is the ultimate power move because it’s a direct line to preserving your happiness.
Forget FOMO—how about JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)?
Life’s too short to spend time doing things that drain your energy. When you say “no” to the things that don’t serve you, you’re saying a big ol’ “YES” to the things that do.
Happiness is about choosing yourself, even when it means cancelling plans at the last minute.
4. Stop living for the ‘Gram’ and start living for YOU
If you have ever caught yourself editing a picture to perfection for Instagram, just to make sure it looks exactly right, let’s have a heart-to-heart.
Happiness isn’t about filters, likes or double-taps.
It’s about enjoying the moment while it’s happening, not curating it for the world to see. Social media is fun but it’s not real life and you don’t owe anyone a perfect version of you. (Read that again, OUTLOUD)
Instead of living for the ‘Gram, try living for yourself. Unplug, unfilter and experience the world in all its messy, unedited glory. Your happiness matters more than your follower count—promise!
5. How to set boundaries that make people say “whoa!”
Setting boundaries can feel awkward, but it’s necessary if you want to protect your energy.
Boundaries are the ultimate happiness hack.
They give you the freedom to be yourself without feeling guilty. Whether it’s saying no to extra work, declining a hangout, or simply turning off your phone for the day, boundaries are your best friend.
When you set clear boundaries, people will either respect them or show you they were never worth your time in the first place.
Your happiness is non-negotiable and boundaries help you keep it that way.
6. Ditch toxic energy: how to spot emotional vampires in the wild
You know that one friend who makes you feel like you have just run a marathon after a simple chat?
Yeah, they are what we call emotional vampires
but don’t worry, garlic isn’t necessary!
Sometimes people don’t mean to, but they can suck the fun right out of the room with their constant drama.
It’s okay to take a little break from the energy drain.
Your happiness is the star of the show, and you deserve to be surrounded by good vibes only. Whether it’s the perpetual complainer or the friend who’s always riding the negativity train, setting a friendly little boundary can save your sanity.
Remember, your energy is precious, and you’re allowed to protect it like your favourite snack—no sharing required!
7. Make “me-time” sacred: a love letter to doing absolutely nothing
Let’s talk about me-time—the art of doing absolutely nothing and loving every second of it.
Society loves to tell us that being busy equals happiness but that’s just not true.
Doing nothing is a powerful way to recharge your batteries and reconnect with yourself.
Whether it’s binge-watching your favourite show, taking a nap or just sitting in silence, me-time is sacred.
Don’t feel guilty about it,
Embrace it!
Happiness often comes from the quiet moments where you just let yourself BE.
8. Happiness hacks you didn’t know you needed (but absolutely do)
Need a quick pick-me-up? Here are some happiness hacks that are simple, effective and life-changing.
Start your day with gratitude—it’s a game-changer. Blast your favourite song and have a mini dance party in your living room.
Smile, even if you’re faking it at first, because it actually tricks your brain into feeling happier.
Try decluttering a small area in your house—it’ll make you feel more in control.
Lastly, take a few minutes to meditate or just breathe deeply. Sometimes, it’s the little things that make the biggest difference in your happiness.
9. Permission to be imperfect: your happiness doesn’t need a filter
Perfectionism is overrated and your happiness doesn’t need a filter to be valid. Stop comparing yourself to the impossible standards you see online or in others.
Embrace your flaws, your quirks and your mistakes—they make you, YOU.
Perfection is boring, but imperfection? That’s where the magic happens.
Happiness comes from accepting yourself
exactly as you are
with all your weirdness and wonderful imperfections. So, give yourself permission to be human. After all, life’s too short to aim for perfect.
10. How to avoid the happiness trap (a.k.a. chasing other people’s dreams)
Ever feel like you’re living someone else’s life? That’s called the happiness trap, and it’s time to break free.
Chasing other people’s dreams will leave you feeling empty, no matter how successful you seem.
Your happiness comes from following YOUR path, not the one society says you should follow.
Whether it’s a career, relationship, or lifestyle, make sure it aligns with what you truly want. Stop living for others and start living for yourself. Remember, your happiness matters more than any external validation.
11. The F-word: why ‘fun’ should be a top priority
When was the last time you did something just for fun? If you have to think about it,
it’s been too long!
Fun is a key ingredient in happiness, and it deserves a spot at the top of your priority list. Whether it’s a spontaneous road trip, a game night with friends, or even a solo dance party, fun fuels your soul. It’s not about productivity or checking off to-do lists—it’s about enjoying the ride.
Happiness is about making time for joy, laughter, and play.
Don’t forget to prioritize it!
12. Your happiness blueprint: designing a life you don’t want to escape from
Let’s get real: happiness is about designing a life you love so much, you don’t need to run away from it.
This means creating routines, habits, and boundaries that nurture your well-being.
It’s not about perfection
but about progress!!
Taking small steps each day toward the life you’ve always wanted. Identify what truly makes you happy and start incorporating more of that into your daily life.
Your happiness blueprint is unique to you, so don’t be afraid to make it as bold and colourful as you want. The goal is to wake up every day excited for the life you’re living!
FAQs:
1. Can happiness really be a choice?
Absolutely! While you can’t control every situation, you can control how you respond to them. Happiness often comes down to mindset and making choices that prioritize your well-being.
2. How do I start setting boundaries without feeling guilty?
Start small. Communicate your needs clearly and remember that boundaries are there to protect your happiness, not to harm others. Over time, it gets easier!
3. What’s the best way to spot a toxic person?
If someone consistently leaves you feeling drained, anxious or unhappy after interacting with them, they are probably toxic. Pay attention to how people make you feel and trust your gut.
Conclusion
At the end of the day, your happiness matters and there’s no need to apologize for that. Life’s too short to live for anyone but yourself so embrace the things that make you feel good and let go of the rest.
Whether it’s setting boundaries, saying no, or taking time for yourself, remember that happiness isn’t a destination—it’s a daily choice.
So go ahead, make your happiness a priority.
F#ck the rest—you’ve got a life to live!
Chat soon
Xx
